Monday morning. Normally I will be more refreshed. I use to go to temple on Sunday evenings to get over with that guilty consciousness of offending people through my blogs in that week. To give me courage and confidence to offend more this week ! Last evening I could not go.
"no temple" my friend came on FB chat last evening. "no. some guests expected in any moment" I replied. After a few conversations regarding the details on the guests, the friend signed off with "tomorrow we can read abotu them in ur blog". I realized that I am building the habit of writing daily. I am building the habit of observing the guests who come home and promptly write about them the very next day.
Let me not disappoint my friend, let me talk about "habits" today.
We develop habits, good or bad. We tend to control our kids not to associate with bad friends. Good. But I have seen kids only prone or susceptible to such bad habits only acquire them. One needs to control only those kids. The ever good kids never learn those bad things. Even you put them in the middle of gundas they will turn into peace loving priests in temples/churches/mosques. But how does one know this? Scientists have researched that some genetic/brain/neurological phenomenon leads people to these bad ways. Unfortunately there are no real tests available to asses it and leave those good kids uncontrolled !
I had undergone a test like this when I was 12 or 13 years old. Not sophisticated test with state of the art technology. Simple, natural test. My younger brother and I visited our Annamma teacher's house that evening. Teacher was not at home. Her husband, Kuriachan was alone at home. Large hearted man, he did not have any thing to offer to us. So he offered toddy ( a drink made out of coconut tree, fermented with mixing some unknown chemicals to sell as alcoholic beverage in Kearla. Lot of people depend on this industry, including the state government !! ). Bering a true villager and toddy is not a big taboo in most of Christian population, he must have thought of that. This toddy was naturally fermented at home, may be a day old. But I can tell you one day is good enough to convert some good part of sugar into ethyl alcohol in it. My brother declined upfront. I just drank it and felt really good!! Teacher arrived and scolded Kuriachan, then only I realized the gravity of the problem.
That day I realized that I can become a decent, well respected, full fledged drunkard in the future. So I became more cautious then on, declined parties in suspect, when ever possible, is difficult though !
Girl's parents are careful to know whether the boy has any bad habits, when an alliance is sought. One guy gave this reference to the girl's parent - the boy I know well. Occasionally he eats onion. "For what". Not regularly, only when he drinks. "Oh he drinks too?" Not always, only when he loses heavily on bets - it goes on like this. So habits can be like a chain reaction, especially the bad ones.
That does not mean there are no good habits. There are many. You just google and you will find thousands of them.
One of our very very senior executives had this habit, when ever a customer meeting got over, he would pick up two or three of those unused mineral water bottles. No idea why he developed that habit, one phone call will make the pantry guy bring 10 of those bottles on his table.
Another senior manager had a habit of sounding horn in every 30 seconds while he used to drive his car. Probably he would have read some study report -" if driver is in his 40s and if the car is ambassador in its 20s, it is found that if the driver honks in every other minute, the fuel efficiency of the car increases by 1.76%". I did not find any other logic for his continuous honking.
I will not be doing full justice to my "chatty" friend, if I don't speak a little about my guests of last evening. My uncle and aunt in their 70s. Uncle is so enterprising. After his retirement, he found he is becoming immobile, so learnt car driving and bought a car. At present he roams all over Cochin in his car. He is well known to us for some other habit though. He is always smiling, we had nicknamed him "smiling budha". If he wants to inform you the horrible news that the world is going to end tomorrow, he can not do that without that characteristic smile. I had met them almost 5 years back at Cochin. In a casual conversation, I had gathered that they both like ice cream very much. So I stacked up ice cream in my fridge as they had told me in the morning itself that they would visit us. That too jackfuit and tender coconut ones, mallu special !!! I could see delight in their faces when they saw ice cream. And even the extra ones I bought got over swiftly.
When you give somebody a gift, try to give some thing he/she likes most. His/her delight will be unparalleled. I do not consider a gift as a true gift, if it is not given as surprise, and that too if it is not most liked or wanted by that person. So try to cultivate the habit of giving true gifts.
Do pick up hobbies to spend your leisure time, the good ones. Convert the hobbies to habits, and if possible convert them to addictions. Bad ones? don't even try to attempt.
But then who decides which is bad and which is good ? Go by socially acceptable norms.
And remember you are not alone. There is no body on the earth with no habits ! Habits define many facets of life.
.
"no temple" my friend came on FB chat last evening. "no. some guests expected in any moment" I replied. After a few conversations regarding the details on the guests, the friend signed off with "tomorrow we can read abotu them in ur blog". I realized that I am building the habit of writing daily. I am building the habit of observing the guests who come home and promptly write about them the very next day.
Let me not disappoint my friend, let me talk about "habits" today.
We develop habits, good or bad. We tend to control our kids not to associate with bad friends. Good. But I have seen kids only prone or susceptible to such bad habits only acquire them. One needs to control only those kids. The ever good kids never learn those bad things. Even you put them in the middle of gundas they will turn into peace loving priests in temples/churches/mosques. But how does one know this? Scientists have researched that some genetic/brain/neurological phenomenon leads people to these bad ways. Unfortunately there are no real tests available to asses it and leave those good kids uncontrolled !
I had undergone a test like this when I was 12 or 13 years old. Not sophisticated test with state of the art technology. Simple, natural test. My younger brother and I visited our Annamma teacher's house that evening. Teacher was not at home. Her husband, Kuriachan was alone at home. Large hearted man, he did not have any thing to offer to us. So he offered toddy ( a drink made out of coconut tree, fermented with mixing some unknown chemicals to sell as alcoholic beverage in Kearla. Lot of people depend on this industry, including the state government !! ). Bering a true villager and toddy is not a big taboo in most of Christian population, he must have thought of that. This toddy was naturally fermented at home, may be a day old. But I can tell you one day is good enough to convert some good part of sugar into ethyl alcohol in it. My brother declined upfront. I just drank it and felt really good!! Teacher arrived and scolded Kuriachan, then only I realized the gravity of the problem.
That day I realized that I can become a decent, well respected, full fledged drunkard in the future. So I became more cautious then on, declined parties in suspect, when ever possible, is difficult though !
Girl's parents are careful to know whether the boy has any bad habits, when an alliance is sought. One guy gave this reference to the girl's parent - the boy I know well. Occasionally he eats onion. "For what". Not regularly, only when he drinks. "Oh he drinks too?" Not always, only when he loses heavily on bets - it goes on like this. So habits can be like a chain reaction, especially the bad ones.
That does not mean there are no good habits. There are many. You just google and you will find thousands of them.
One of our very very senior executives had this habit, when ever a customer meeting got over, he would pick up two or three of those unused mineral water bottles. No idea why he developed that habit, one phone call will make the pantry guy bring 10 of those bottles on his table.
Another senior manager had a habit of sounding horn in every 30 seconds while he used to drive his car. Probably he would have read some study report -" if driver is in his 40s and if the car is ambassador in its 20s, it is found that if the driver honks in every other minute, the fuel efficiency of the car increases by 1.76%". I did not find any other logic for his continuous honking.
I will not be doing full justice to my "chatty" friend, if I don't speak a little about my guests of last evening. My uncle and aunt in their 70s. Uncle is so enterprising. After his retirement, he found he is becoming immobile, so learnt car driving and bought a car. At present he roams all over Cochin in his car. He is well known to us for some other habit though. He is always smiling, we had nicknamed him "smiling budha". If he wants to inform you the horrible news that the world is going to end tomorrow, he can not do that without that characteristic smile. I had met them almost 5 years back at Cochin. In a casual conversation, I had gathered that they both like ice cream very much. So I stacked up ice cream in my fridge as they had told me in the morning itself that they would visit us. That too jackfuit and tender coconut ones, mallu special !!! I could see delight in their faces when they saw ice cream. And even the extra ones I bought got over swiftly.
When you give somebody a gift, try to give some thing he/she likes most. His/her delight will be unparalleled. I do not consider a gift as a true gift, if it is not given as surprise, and that too if it is not most liked or wanted by that person. So try to cultivate the habit of giving true gifts.
Do pick up hobbies to spend your leisure time, the good ones. Convert the hobbies to habits, and if possible convert them to addictions. Bad ones? don't even try to attempt.
But then who decides which is bad and which is good ? Go by socially acceptable norms.
And remember you are not alone. There is no body on the earth with no habits ! Habits define many facets of life.
.
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